May 24, 2017

Mistakes: How We Hate Them

Mistakes.

We all make them and we all have to live with them. Sometimes they are mundane, with a quick fix, others are harder to undo and can bring serious repercussions. M i S t A k e S happen all the time.

Yet, we hate them. We stress about them. We over analyze them. Mistakes keep us up at night because we wish we could undo them or we wonder how to fix them. 'Oops' and 'Oh nos' can clutter our brain, heart and soul if we let them. How often do we beat ourselves up over mistakes? Big and small mistakes steal us of brain power as we look back and ponder.

I experienced the uncomfortable rush of worry when I made a few mistakes at work last week. One wasn't too bad, but one was a pretty big deal and when I realized what happened [after hours of sleuthing] I felt the horrible pit in my stomach grow into a knot. My mistake affected business. This was not something done by rushing, not paying attention or anything else on my part, it was J U S T a mistake. A misunderstanding. Yet, there were still consequence for my actions, which brought the knot.

My boss was out of the office for a bit, so I had to sit and wait. And worry. And overthink. About HOW I would tell him. How I would explain the situation. How I would cop to making the mistake without excuse, just an explanation. Those 45 minutes were excruciating because all I could do was stress, stress and stress some more. Because, that's just what I do.

I replay mistakes in teaching classes over and over, wondering why and how I got everything so wrong. It's JUST group fitness, Pinky, let it go and breathe. Ha, yeah right. I want to be perfect teaching, and one blip on one track somehow creates a HORRIBLE class. Which doesn't really make sense, right?

What can we do to change this? How do we let [small] mistakes happen without freaking out? Words and thoughts can be just as powerful as actions, so how do we stop the self loathing? With our brain. With our thoughts,. WE take control and we recognize the mistake, we breathe, we regroup and we move on. WE acknowledge the hurt, discomfort and maybe tears, and then we bring action. We take the power to control our mood. We arrive at a new destination where self deprecation isn't allowed.

How does my work story end? My boss was incredibly understanding, forgiving and made no fuss what so ever. His biggest concern was what I learned and how I would work on things gong forward. See, all that stress for nothing.

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8 comments:

Kathy@MoreCoffeeLessTalky said...

making mistakes sucks but i think you learn from them a lot more than if you never or rarely made mistakes.

mistakes at my work can cost a project hundreds of thousands of (wasted) dollars but the important part is that the person who made the mistake owns up to it and works to fix it. I guarantee that it's not the mistake that people focus on, it's how you work to make it right.

Foxy's Domestic Side said...

OH man, I know that feeling all too well. Glad that it was okay and it worked out. Sometimes I have to remind myself that what I am going through is not life or death and to keep it in perspective.

Kate at Green Fashionista said...

Oh girl I've been there, the waiting is the worst! And thankfully most of the time, our worries lead to relief. So glad your boss was understanding *hugs* <3
Green Fashionista

Emily at 'a little bit of Emily' said...

I know exactly what you mean by getting that pit in your stomach! So glad it all worked out!

Jen said...

I totally understand this! What I love about this though is that your boss didn't make a big deal about it and he was more concerned about the learning that came along with it. I think the lesson is the best part of a mistake. There is always something to learn in situations like that.

Rebecca Jo said...

That's just the worst feeling... but I'm so glad you work for someone who does have a good outlook on forgiving & letting lessons learned be the result of it all.

Brianne said...

That feeling you get when you make a mistake is the worst! I still replay mistakes in my head that I made forever ago. I'm glad that your boss was so understanding!

Emily @ Martinis & Bikinis said...

Mistakes are inevitable sometimes...small or big. The big ones causing so much distress but I'm happy to hear your boss was super understanding and made you feel less stressed about the situation.