Tough Talk Tuesday: LC vs Heidi

Okay I know what you are thinking. 

The girls from The Hills = Tough Talk?!?!

Are you smoking crack?!?

No, I'm not, let me explain.

This isn't regarding the stupid drama on the show,

but rather the pivotal moment in LC and Heidi's friendship.

The tough moment where the best friend doesn't approve

of the other best friend's boyfriend and tells her to her face. 

And then all friendship hell breaks loose.

Y'all know what I'm talking about right?!

So what is the right thing to do as a best friend?

I know we've all been there in some way.

You have a good friend that stays in a relationship that is bad for them, just because they don't want to be alone. Or they keep toxic friendships because they don't want to rock the boat. Or they keep going back to the same bar, to look for mister right and then get upset when it doesn't work out. So you listen to the drama and say the right words to make them feel better, when what you really wanna do is tell them the truth, but you don't because you don't wanna ruin the friendship.

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It's their life and if they make bad choices, keep bad people in their life, or continue to make the same mistake over and over again, it's our job to be there pick up the pieces and tell them it's okay.

That's what being a friend is about right?!?

But what do you do when you KNOW with every fiber of your being
they are making a big mistake?

Or are about to make a bit mistake.

One that you think will bring big repercussion down the road.

Do you bite your tounge, let them carry on with the charade and then when it all falls apart [like you KNOW it will] you just pick up the pieces without saying "I told you so"?

Or, do you put your best friend big girl pants on
and tell them the truth?

That the decision they are making is wrong and they are just acting out of desperation?

That going back to someone doesn't mean that they have changed
and things will be different this time around?

Personally, I think that speaking the truth is the best thing to do,
as long as it's done with tact
and accomplanied by the phrase
"I'm here to support you no matter what,
but I just have to let you know how I feel".

And while I THINK speaking the truth is the best idea,
I am 100% guilty of just saying what I know my friend
wants to hear, because it's not worth
the hurt feelings.

Looking out for a friend is hard because sometimes you
HAVE to say the things they don't want to hear,
because YOU are supposed to be there for them.

And often 'being there' is only acceptable if it's
doing what the friend wants/needs/expects.

How do you know when a friendship is strong enough
to withstand an 'intervention' or 'tough talk'?

The truth could save them from lots of heartbreak,
but it could also turn a friendship into a mess.

Example A:
"He's a SUCKY PERSON"

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What are your thoughts on best friends and tough situations?

Do you hold your tongue or do you speak the truth?

This Weekend I....

Today I'm switching it up around here.

I'm linking up for

This weekend I...

...convinced Le Husband to go to Z Burger for dinner on Friday. It was amazing.

....also convinced him Menchie's was a good plan for dessert.

...woke up at 630am on Saturday morning.

...ran a 10K with the family and Le Husband.

photo source babyspice

...felt alright running, but knew I could do better.

...cheered on wounded warriors that ran/walked the race.

...ate amazing banana caramel chocolate french toast

at Silver diner with my family.

...cleaned the apartment with C.

...took a much needed nap during college football.

...met up with C's cousin for dinner.

...inhaled my fish tacos and margarita.

...went back to Menchie's for dessert again.

...wrote more wedding 'Thank You" notes.

...went to church.

...folded lots of laundry.

...finally painted my toes/hands.

...played in an indoor soccer game.

...made a delicious Mahi-Mahi dinner with C.

...prepped lunch for Monday.

...packed the gym bag for my morning workouts.

What did you do this weekend?

Thank You Baby

While driving in the car this week I was listening to some old CDs.  I happened upon Shania Twain's Up and had a fun walk down memory lane for many of the songs.

One of the songs that really stood out to me her song "Thank You Baby!". I remember being a young girl, listening to the lyrics hoping to find my mister right, the guy I could 'sing this song to' in my head.

And now here I am. I have an amazing husband that makes me happier than I could ever imagine. My someday is here and for that I am thankful and so grateful.

So THANK YOU HUSBAND! For making my someday come so soon!

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"Thank You Baby! (For Makin' Someday Come So Soon)"

Oh, thank you baby for

lovin' me like you do

I didn't like datin'--

and trying to find someone

I gave up waitin'--for love to come along

There had to be someway--

I knew I'd find it someday

[Chorus:]

Yeah, thank you baby!

For makin' someday come so soon

Yeah, thank you baby!

For lovin' me the way you do

So many numbers--so many guys to call

Is it any wonder--I got nowhere at all

Oh, well it had to be someway (it had to be

someway) I knew I'd find it someday

[Repeat Chorus]

Thank you baby (check it out)

[Instrumental Solo]

Oh,

Uh, uh, uh, yeah

There had to be someway--

I knew I'd find it someday

[Repeat Chorus]

(Thank you baby) Thank you baby!

(Thank you baby) For lovin'

me the way, me the way you do

Baby someway, someday, somewhere

Yeah, yeah

Oh, thank you baby! For lovin'

me like you do

Oh, thank you baby

 

What Would I Change?!?

Today I'm using a prompt from yesterday via NaBloPoMo. Blogging on the weekends has been a bit of a struggle so far and I kind of needed all the help I can get. 

Nov 15: If you could quit one bad habit instantly without difficulty, which would it be?

Hmmmmm....what bad habit would I change?

I would change the fact that I'm easily distracted

and I allow myself to be lazy when I could be getting

bit things done.

Take this post for example, I've been trying to write

but have gotten distracted by my phone,

a tv show and just other parts of the Internet.

Looking back on my life I see so many squandered opportunities

with athletics,

school,

friendships

and jobs.

I've mentioned my 'lack of drive' a few times

and it is usually tied to things I 'regret'.

The only person that can change this is me,

so I just need to DO IT!

A Thankful Friday Five

WOOHOO, we made y'all!

It's Friday and the weekend is almost here, can you taste it?

Before we get to the weekend, let's get the weekly linkup.

[Make sure you link up]

I noticed a few weeks ago that Natasha and other ladies used this linkup as a way to count things they were thankful for, so I thought I'd join in this week. I'm not sure if I'll do it for the rest of the month, but today, I'm talking thankfulness.

I'm thankful for:

1] The men and women in our United States Military

I grew up an Army brat and even though Daddy is retired now my pride in our US ARMY and other branches of the military is the same today as it was growing up. The sacrifices the men and women in our armed forces have made, since the creation of the United States of America is incredible and something I think many people take for granted. I feel so blessed to be raised in a nation where I can do pretty much whatever I want [without hurting others or breaking the law] without fear of persecution, death or jail. I can pray to my God, I can wear pants, I can play sports and choose to live alone with a child if I wanted. Our military keeps us safe and serves not only our country but the world. I am so thankful for their constant sacrifices and their sense of pride in our nation. 

LAND OF THE FREE BECAUSE OF THE BRAVE!

2] My family

Everyone says it, but I know it. I have the best family in the world. God blessed me with an amazing mama, daddy and two lil sisters and I thank Him every day [except with sisters steal my clothes] for my amazing Brady Bunch family. We're like most families, a lil nutzo but fiercely loyal and supportive of one another. 2013 has been the best year of my life and they were a HUGE part in making me feel special during wedding planning and on the actual day. I know not all brides experience the support, love and help I was given and I feel so lucky to have had the four of them by my side. Our family has grown this year and now my parents have a soninlaw and my sisters have a brother, so amazing. My family is my rock and I am so so so grateful they are MINE!


3]My Good health and athletic ability

The Lord may not have blessed me with the body of a Victoria's Secret Angel, but the one He gave me works pretty darn well. While I do suffer from some random allergies and have had my share of sports injuries, I know I'm incredibly blessed to be as healthy as I am at 30. I've never broken a bone and the only surgeries I've encountered are wisdom teeth extraction and Lasik [KNOCKHEAVILYONWOODTHANKYOU]. There are so many people that suffer debilitating injuries or deal with chronic illness and I am so thankful I'm able to be as active as I am. I may not be the most in shape person, but I am still able to physically push myself to my limits and not suffer major consequences. Our bodies are amazing pieces of anatomy and I'm grateful I have the one I do.

4] My choice to invest money at a young age.

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First, let me say this...I am by no means a financial expert nor am a rich.  But, I started investing money with my dad's financial advisor when I was 25 years old. In the beginning it wasn't very much each month, but through the years I've been able to increase my investment and had seen a very good return. I'm thankful that a] I have enough money TO INVEST and b] that my investments are growing despite the tumultuous market. I started investing with the goal of creating college accounts for my future children and of course retirement and right now I have more money than I started with so that's a good thing ;)! I would strongly suggest that if you aren't already investing, you look into a good advisor and start a small account. 

5] Le Husband

I mean come on, did you really think this newlywed could get through a thankful post without mentioning my new husband?!?! As mentioned before, this year has been the best YEAR OF MY LIFE and I'm so happy to married to a truly amazing man. Like many girls I dreamed of meeting my prince charming, getting engaged and having a dream wedding. And this year I achieved it all. I am so thankful I listened to God when He brought a RANDOM opportunity to join a new, random kickball team in DC. I'm thankful I trusted Him and jumped in head first because otherwise I wouldn't be where I am today. C is the man I never dreamed possible and makes me happy in so many was I never imagined. He constantly makes me laugh, loves me for me and is just amazing in so many ways. I'm so thankful I am Mrs. C and enjoying life as a newlywed. :)

Haaaaaaaaapppy Friday my loves < 3

Thoughts On A Thursday

Little teaser from next week's Wedding Wednesday

.:. Being sick is no bueno, but a sick day isn't too bad - As you can tell from my lack of posting, I was home sick yesterday. I woke up not feeling well and figured instead of infecting everyone else, I would take a sick day and knock out whatever bug my body was fighting. Luckily after sleeping in, some fluids and rest I'm feeling much better and back at work. I'd put money that this was due to the weather change of 70 degrees to 30 degrees, plus a lack of sleep all weekend. Fingers crossed whatever it is stays away.

.:. Having a clean and decorated apartment does wonders for the soul - Oh my laaaaaaand, I was FINALLY able to put away all of our gift boxes [minus the kitchen] and actually decorate our place. The living room is vacuumed, flowers are in vases, fall themed pumpkins are out and it smells gooood. I'm excited for our first 'home', but right now, our lil apartment is feeling super cozy :)!

.:. The health train is still at the station - And it doesn't look like it's leaving anytime soon. Going on vacation can really mess with the munchy snack monster and an empty fridge is no bueno either. I've been snacking on smores cookies, lucky charms and eating suishi for lunch like it's my job. The holiday season is the WORST time to try a new healthy regimen so I'm going to try and just slowly start eating better one meal at a time. Starting with a delicious tuna lunch today......and NOOOOO cookies ;)!

.:. Three days of 'messy dirty hair' is all this girl can take - Since being home from NOLA, life has been a bit hectic with surpsie hockey games and meetings. So I've been using AS LITTLE time as possible to get ready in the mornings in order to gain a few extra minutes of sleep. Twisting my hair or ballerina bunning it has been a saving grace, but three days is DEF the max for me. I have noticed that not washing it as often has led it to grow more I'm excited to be rocking longer hair. Instead of doing the JUST MARRIED hair chop, I think I'm going to keep it long for the holiday season. Note to self, hair appointment ASAP!

.:.  Do you know the REAL story about the lady who sued McDonalds? - I'd waged a lot of money you don't. Like most people I thought the lady was driving, with coffee between her legs, spilled on herself and then sued the company to get rich. If you thought the same thing, you would be 100% wrong. Her story has become so twisted it's sad. If you have a moment watch *this* video and get the real story before you use her as the butt of a joke.

.:.  Our CHRISTMAS CARDS ARE HERE - Can you tell I'm a lil excited? Thank you for all of your awesome suggestions, y'all are the best. I ended up going with Minted as they were running a $20 off [express creation], $25 off and free shipping special. I am so in love with them and while I will NEVER spend the amount of money I did this year on cards again, I am so happy with the cost and the design. I can't wait to share them with you later next month.

Have a great day pretties! < 3

What a Difference a Year Makes

365 measly days right?!?!

Wrong!

Last year, this time, I was a girl friend, on a trip with my sisters and my boyfriend.

We all partied together, played our tails off in kickball together, were the #2 team together and enjoyed our time together in NOLA. It was the FIRST big trip I took with both sissys and the boyfriend and while I was a bit nervous in the beginning, by the second day it was clear this 'family' could work. Little did I know that THIS weekend was the weekend Sportyspice KNEW it was right so she grabbed Le Beau and said "WHEN you're ready, you better let me know and we will help you out"! Way to be aggressive sis ;)! But of course, that piece was an important piece in my engagement story.

This week, last year was the kick off to the best year of my life. I was completely clueless [of course] and was just enjoying my time with my three bestest friends. Our time in NOLA was awesome and then C and I jumped on a cruise for one of my favorite weeks ever.

While we were in NOLA this past weekend, C and I past a cruise ship and I felt this overwhelming sense of nostalgia, thankfulness and happiness flow through my body. Last year I was just a girlfriend and this year I was a wife on a wonderful trip with my amazing husband. HUSBAND! If I had been told last year, that the next year I would be married I would have laughed. Not rudely, but in the unsuspecting no way we can plan a wedding in six months way.Oh silly last year Pinky, if you only KNEW!

If you only KNEW the difference a year can make. :)