November 5, 2014

!Anything!...but not {EVERYTHING}

Take a moment and re-read that again.

Anything, but not everything.

The American dream is you can be 'ANYTHING YOU WANT TO BE'. You can do 'ANYTHING YOU WANT TO DO'. All, of course, with hard work and perseverance, but if you can dream it and believe it you can achieve it.

My parents instilled that sense of drive in the three sisters, from a young age. And we knew that we could do anything we wanted to do in order to achieve our dreams and they would support us [minus anything illegal].

But, you know what they didn't tell us when we were younger?

You can do ANYTHING, however, you can't do 
                              E V E R Y T H I N G!!!

At some point, you have to choose.

You have to choose the path you want to lead. Often, life choses things for us and we just have to go with it. But, sometimes it's up to us. And then we have to follow our heart and figure out what we want. What happens when what you want changes, constantly?

Multiple children? Only one child? Settle down close to family? Move away to experience life on your own? Quit a financially stable job to follow a passion? Stay with said job, because of the stability? Delay child rearing in order to travel more?  Say just do it and move to Alaska for a year? Or what about other big sky states?
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I'm sitting here, with my tea, and trying to figure out what I want. Besides the ability to do everything. Something in life is making me feel restless, ready for a new adventure and a new place. But doing what? And where?

I've never really been the timeline girl. I didn't HAVE to be engaged by a certain age, or married by a certain and clearly I'm in no rush to have children. Do I want to be a mom? HECK YES!!!! But, am I ready for the responsibilities that having a kid entails? Am I ready to put my goals/wishes and thoughts on the back burner, for the needs and wants of my children? I don't know. There is so much out there in the world to experience and I want to see as much as I can.

 The world is my oyster, ready to be devoured and conquered. However, I'm stuck sitting at the table, contemplating HOW I want the chef to prepare it for consumption. I'm ready to take the next step, but what is that step?!?!?!

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Thank you for all of your prayers and thoughts, yesterday. The situation is still dire, for all involved, so more good will, prayers and thoughts would be much appreciated. Thank you for being amazing, friends!

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I'm so stinking excited to finally share, that my beautiful friend Jess, is expecting! I am over the moon thrilled for her and her sweet family. Go wish here congrats *here*!!
The K Family
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27 comments:

BLovedBoston said...

This is such a great post!! I think we (me) tend to forget that we can really do anything, but we can't do everything we want...we do have to pick and maybe at some point in our lives we'll come to that thing we forgot about and pursue it again!! xo

MakeMeUpMia said...

Oh how your list of questions spoke directly to me haha. I've struggled a little with this the last year especially!

Kathy @ Vodka and Soda said...

pick the biggest thing you want to do that would make you the happiest and focus on that :) that's what i would do (and usually do).

as for kids - that can always happen. it took me five years after we got married before i was ready to have kids because i wanted to do what i want and when i wanted and didn't want to be burdened with the needs of children. then one day, it was like a switch flipped in my brain and i actually wanted to have kids.

Jessica said...

Love this post! And can't wait to see what steps you take next on this crazy, beautiful ride we call life. Still praying for your friend. Hoping for good news soon. And thank you for the sweet shout out! We are oh, so excited (as you know!)

Jessica said...

Love this post! And can't wait to see what steps you take next on this crazy, beautiful ride we call life. Still praying for your friend. Hoping for good news soon. And thank you for the sweet shout out! We are oh, so excited (as you know!)

Jess said...

You've got this girl! Life is full of choices, changes, and excitement. Can't wait to hear what you do.

Jessi @ Jessi's Design said...

The heart quote is on point! I'm stealing that! So many good things to consider here and congrats to your friend! I'm heading her way now! xoxo

Mree said...

This is such a great post. I have been at a crossroad for some time and have been thinking of my next step. I'm ready for a change but at the same time scared of change. I know I need to make a decision soon.
Sending my thoughts and prayers to your friend. Big hugs.

Pamela {Sequins and Sea Breezes} said...

I LOVE this post! I think we often forget that doing anything and doing everything aren't the same thing. I've definitely struggled with this, especially lately so it's nice to hear I'm not alone! Congrats to your friend Jess!

<3, Pamela
sequinsandseabreezes.blogspot.com

The Siberian American said...

Love this post! I agree with everything. I understand the wanting kids but not being sure if you're ready. I do think that no one is ever truly ready to have kids (even when they say they are) because it is such a huge change that it's hard to prepare for until you're in it. (Sorry if that doesn't make sense. This was a weird rambling comment.) Love those travel quotes too! They really speak to me. :)

~Dawn~ said...

Amen! But, sometimes if you actually wait until you think you're ready...it will never happen. You know??

Julia said...

Love this, so true! I've definitely struggled with knowing what I want to do and what path to take! It's wonderful to have options but can be overwhelming at the same time!

Shannon Jenkins said...

Love this post!! It's so true! Sometimes it's tough to know which path to take but life is all about risks and usually our minds always know deep down the better one from my experience!

<3 Shannon
Upbeatsoles.blogspot.com

Jamie said...

Love this!

Leslie Lukens Martin said...

Oh wow...so much to think about and ponder. I'm such an analytical person, but I finally learned to just go with my gut {heart???} when making a big decision that will impact the future. That method has worked out so far! :)

Elizabeth Dietz said...

What an awesome post! I think I often find myself trying to do everything and getting frustrated when I can't. It was definitely a good reminder that I can do anything I put my mind to, but that I don't have to try to do everything.

Kristen said...

Basically my thoughts exactly. Sometimes I think I am ready for kids and then I think about what I'd have to give up, and I'm not ready for that. I want so much - to travel, a new couch, to travel some more.. but it all takes money and time that isn't growing on trees. It sucks.

Bitzy said...

Can I just copy and paste this whole post? I've definitely struggled with this a TON the past 2 years (not the having kids thing obvi, but the indecision of it all).
Also, praying <3

Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly said...

I totally agree! A lot is possible in life, but not everything. The biggest decision I've ever had to take so far was about flying to a job interview for my absolute dream job or calling the interview off and going on this first date with a certain guy. I chose and the rest is history :-)

Stephanie @ Life, Unexpectedly said...

I'm keeping you in my thoughts to make the right decisions for you and your family!

Katie Elizabeth said...

Girl, I am right there with ya. Especially on the kids thing. YES I want them and my husband is starting to push it more but there are so many other things I want to do first!

Carolyn said...

This is so so so so so true!! Timelines are meant to be broken. :) Things will happen when they're supposed to!

The Rachael Way said...

I love this.. we have to choose our priorities in life and sometimes it's so hard, right?! Ugh. I have faith that you will make the right decision, whatever that is!

Illegally Blonde said...

Oh BOFF, how did I miss this yesterday. My words to you are trust in Him. He will answer your prayers, provide your timeline and lead you where you should go. Praying for you and your family and for certainty for the future. Love you.

Erin LFF said...

I'm right there with you girl... and I wish I had awesome insight. But I don't. I'm in that same weird spot of life you are, I feel like. Things aren't bad, of course not! But I feel restless, I feel like I'm not sure what direction to go, etc. HUGS! Wish we were neighbors and could talk this all out in person!!

Amanda Elizabeth - Meet @ the Barre said...

Girl I totally understand what you are talking about! Shoot I'm not even married and people are asking us when are going to have kids and I'm like....I still want to do so many things!!! So much pressure all the time!!!

Courtney B said...

Girl, I totally feel you on this!! If I could, I would have a map with EVERY phase of our life planned out because I like to be in control of every situation! I'm reminded time and time again that life can throw curve balls in an instant to keep us on our toes. But maybe that's the reason we make changes? And then we realize that said change is a good thing? Does that make sense? What I do know is that you won't ever feel totally ready when making a huge decision (like having a baby, buying a house or making a huge move) BUT you will know when it's right (even if it's terrifying)!
Alsooooo, Eric and I were married 4 years before we got pregnant. It's not that long but we were able to travel and have some fun together, despite our young age. We've discovered since having Mia that we can still travel with her, as well as go on trips without her (but we've only done that once so far) I kind of assumed that life as we knew it would be over after having a baby... but we've been on the go since having Mia than ever before! And it's SO FUN!