October 15, 2015

A Happy/Sad TBT

Since we were in Vegas this past weekend, I was not able to celebrate a happy day with my family. October 11th  was always a day of celebration, love and family in my home. Back in 1980, Mama B and Daddy got all dressed up and promised to love and cherish one another forever and the 11th marked 35 years of wedded bliss. 

35 years later they are still IN LOVE, happy and an amazing example of marriage. They have been the biggest supports of my marriage and I only hope Le Husband and I are as fortunate as they are in life. Cheers to many more years together, Mama B and Daddy! I wish you a gobzillion wishes of happiness and joy!
Pretty sure I borrowed this from Babyspice, THANKS!

Nine years ago October 11th became a day of sadness and a day of grieving. Nine years ago a college friend and an amazing man gave the ultimate sacrifice when he was killed in action in Iraq. I found out from a friend via AIM when I was at work and I'll never forget that moment. I lost it at my desk and just asked 'WHY SHANE'? My boss was incredibly understanding and let me leave work early and on the drive home from work my dad kept me company. I was a mess the rest of the day, trying to find out details about the funeral and just grieving alone in my room.
Shane epitomized life. He lived with zest, humor, love and truly didn't know a stranger. While we weren't incredibly close during college he was the go to guy in classes and always had a laugh or a smile when you needed it most. All funerals are sad, but his is one of the most mournful moments of my life. The world is a little less bright because his candle is no longer burning.

I do my best to visit his grave every year, either during Memorial weekend or during October. I usually leave a flower with a note by his stone and just sit there and cry while I remember a life that is no more. Last Christmas I was blessed enough to meet his family while we were laying wreaths at Arlington Cemetery. It was poignant talking with them and I couldn't help but cry when his father teared up remembering his son.

I wore a KIA bracelet with his name and date on my wrist for many years and after it started to break I put it away until I could save it for my wedding. Shane's bracelet was part of my bouquet and is forever preserved with my flowers.


Thank you Shane, for your service to our great nation. You will never be forgotten < 3!
 
Linking up with *kristin*& *annie*

28 comments:

BLovedBoston said...

I remember the first time you shared the story of your friend - he is a true hero - what strength and courage he had...

Also happy belated anniversary to those two love birds! xo, Biana -BlovedBoston

Ashley @ The Wandering Weekenders said...

Losing somebody is hard, but it always seems especially hard when it's somebody so young that had their whole life ahead of them. It seems like you're doing an amazing job keeping his memory alive, and I'm sure he won't ever be forgotten! Big hugs because I'm sure the 11th was a tough day, even though it also has some happy memories because of your parents!

Pamela {Sequins and Sea Breezes} said...

First, happy anniversary to your parents! Hope they had a great time celebrating!

Even though Shane is gone the ways you have remembered him and carried on his spirit are great! Love that he was included in your wedding day and you know he was looking down smiling on you. Big hugs to you girl! <3, Pamela Sequins & Sea Breezes

Katie Elizabeth said...

Such a bittersweet day. Love that you've continued to remember and visit Shane - he truly gave the biggest sacrifice for our country and I know that I am thankful to him as well. Also, happy anniversary to your parents! I hope they had a fabulous day together!

Rachel said...

Wow--what a big day for two very different reasons. My parents are celebrating their 25th anniversary this year, we actually managed to get all 7 of us kids in one place to celebrate with them, something that's pretty hard to do now that we're all spread all over the world.

Illegally Blonde said...

Hugging you so much from afar. So hard when two different emotions occur on the same day. But cheers to 35 years and p.s. you look just like Mama B in her wedding day pic... seriously twinsies!

Amanda {Kids and Cabernet} said...

Happy anniversary to your parents - what a great example of love and commitment. BTW you look just like your mama in that wedding picture :)

And so sorry about your friend, but I love how you continue to remember him - that's so special.

Liz Jo said...

I'm so glad that your parents have shared so many years together! But incredibly sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. He was a wonderful person for serving our country.

liz @ sundays with sophie

Joey @ Hodgespodges said...

Such a handsome and wonderful man. Thanks for sharing some of his story.

Kate at Green Fashionista said...

*Hugs* for you my friend on this bittersweet day. I'm so sorry to hear about your dear friend <3

Green Fashionista

Traci Taylor Hart said...

Awww, reading this about your friend made me tear up. I love the way you made the bracelet a part of your bouquet. Congratulations to your parents on a long and happy marriage...a rarity these day.
Traci
waltzmetoheaven.com

mariafelicia magno said...

thanks for sharing

Queen In Between said...

Such a handsome guy. You are a great friend to continue keeping his memory alive.

awhite said...

Definitely a mix of happy + sad. Your parents are an inspiration! And your friend, also- in a heroic way. :)

-Ashley
Le Stylo Rouge

Jen said...

So many different emotions to be felt. Sending you lots of love for both occasions.

Foxy's Domestic Side said...

Wow, first happy anniversary to your parents, and the way you talk about your friend, so touching. So glad that even though he's gone you could remember him on your wedding day.

Erin LFF said...

Whew- what an emotional rollercoaster I'm feeling. How blessed to have parents still in love after all these years- congratulations to them. And thanks for keeping the memory of your friend alive, that bracelet is absolutely beautiful and a wonderful tribute to him.

Brianne said...

First, happy belated anniversary to your parents.

Second, I am so sorry for your loss. I love that you included the KIA bracelet in your bouquet. That is such a great way to remember & honor your friend.

Amanda - Voyage of the MeeMee said...

I'm so sorry that you had to lose someone like this. What a special person to make the sacrifice that he did. He will be honored and remembered forever, by myself too!

Emily said...

Your parents are true role models. Happy anniversary to them.

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. Sounds like he was a great guy and that was awesome you could honor him by building his bracelet into your bouquet.

Ashley Greenwell said...

Such an emotional filled day for you. I absolutely love that you wore the bracelet and then incorporated it into your bouquet. Such a special memory.

Kait said...

Wow, this post made me tear up happy AND sad tears! Sending you lots of love <3

Ashley S. said...

Congratulations to your parents! What an awesome milestone!

I am very sorry for the loss of your friend. It is wonderful that you continue to honour his memory and sacrifice.

Kay R. said...

Happy anniversary to your parents.

And you are such a beautiful person for visiting your friends grave every year. Sorry for your loss :(

Michelle said...

A great tribute to both your parents and you friend Pinky. A marriage held together that long these days is worth gold. Your friend, and what he gave to our country, also worth gold. You are gold too to remember him each year and not forget the sacrifice he gave.

Ellen Ross | Ask Away said...

This is a precious post. HUGS GIRL!
XO Ellen from Ask Away
www.askawayblog.com

Courtney B said...

You are such a sweet soul... Beautiful inside and out! I saw this post on Facebook and remember reading about your friend last year. You are amazing to carry on his memory!
Also, a happy belated anniversary to your parents!

Kristen @ See You In A Porridge said...

happy anniversary to your parents :) so amazing.

i am so sorry for your loss, friend. i am sure it doesn't get easier as the years go on, but i remember you said his family said it meant so much that you visit his grave and remember him. you are such a sweet soul xx