January 7, 2015

I Confess… I Don't Do You

Morning, dear friends of mine. Thank y'all so much for your kind words and pump ups yesterday. I'm usually not a ranter, but man that commute was a bear. We're all good now and I'm thankful everyone I love is safe and sound.

Today is a fabulous day, as CONFESSION WEDNESDAYS are back y'all. I'm still uber sad Kathy has left the blog world, but I'm super stoked Melissa has taken the confessions linkup and brought it back. I've really missed my weekly confessing and reading all your confessions, too. And I kind of love this guy's face ;)!
Making Melissa

With this being the inaugural Wednesday, I thought I'd try something different. Instead of confessing the funny, I'm confessing the people I've decided have NO PLACE in my 2015. Everyone you meet in life teaches you something, whether it's good or bad it's something. The people below have taught me what I don't want/need in my life and why leaving them behind is a good thing.

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Hypocrites: Rude people are annoying. But more annoying than people that continually rant about infractions, are people that refuse to admit their faults, yet continue to call out others. Or what about that people that are just as guilty of "said infractions"? I've heard you complain about your mom, your boyfriend, your in-laws, bridesmaids in your wedding and everyone in between. Yet, when someone says something that's not GLOWING about you, they are the worst person in the world. Talking smack about their 'ugly hearts' only proves your heart is just as 'ugly', congratulations on looking like a fool.
Goodbye, hypocrite. You've taught me that I don't want to be seen as a fool, so I'll be sure not to complain about things that I am guilty of doing to others.
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Constant Complainers: You know what I'm talking about right? The person that has a put down about every situation. "How are you this dreary grey day?" when it's just cloudy. It's always too hot, too cold, too cloudy, too sunny, too everything and they let you know it. Having a meeting is torture, even though the meeting happens every week [and I'm pretty sure you have zero knowledge of torture]. Now, don't get me wrong, I complain, a lot. But, 99% of my complaints are about things that drive me nuts at the moment and then I move on with life. I don't live to complain, that's just too exhausting and no one wants to be around a Debbie downer all the time.
Goodbye, complainer. You've taught me that listening to complaints on a daily basis is draining. I want to be the friend that lifts my friends up and doesn't constantly bring them down.

Do Nothings: If you have  a problem, fix it, that's my mentality. Obviously there are times and situations that we can't fix by cutting the bad out [family problems, work problems] and if someone is stuck in that situation, I'm more than willing to be a listening ear. However, those that complain about situations they can change drive me bonkers. If you're the whipping boy/girl of your group of friends and you don't like it, get better friends. We're not in college anymore and being popular is no longer the 'cool' thing. Being happy is what matters, so grow a pair and walk away. Or stop complaining about it, because it's a situation you are choosing to be in, so no sympathy here.
Goodbye, do nothings. You've taught me that inaction is weak and can be seen as a call for attention. I am now more mindful of issues I bring up to friends, because I don't want to be seen as a pushover or someone that doesn't take action when I should.
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Compulsive Liars: One of my college ex-best friends was a compulsive liar, but it was something I didn't seen until everything blew up my senior year. She had an explanation for everything, which often made sense at the time, but looking back there were soooo maaaannny stories. And so many stories that were untrue. When we finally caught her in all of her lies it was heartbreaking to realize how easily she hid the truth. Obviously the friendship ended right out of college, but I still find myself looking back when I think I've caught others lying.
Goodbye, compulsive liar. You've taught me that getting caught in a lie is not a place I ever want to be caught. Lies lead to deceit and trouble and those are both things I have no interest in pursing.

Instigators: These people really grind my gears. The Facebook, Twitter, blog and forum poster that just says things to piss other people off. Honestly, I used to get pretty worked up about posts. I used to let those people make me angry, hot under the collar and I'd stew trying to think up the perfect response. But then I realized, most of the inflammatory posts were for attention and to get people ticked off and by letting them 'get to me' I was supporting their purpose. Now I try to avoid those people/posts like the plague [thank you hide status on Facebook application] and count to ten after reading a particularly ridiculous post. Y'all ain't worth my thoughts.
Goodbye, instigator. You've taught me to think twice before I post ANYTHING. I don't mind sharing my opinion, but I will NOT be someone that just post opinions for shock value. 
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Copy Cats: You'd think I'd be used to copy cats being the eldest of three girls, but no, I'm here to tell you I'm not. I get that copying is a 'highest form of flattery' but after awhile it just gets old. NOW, don't get me wrong, I understand that fashion is all about imitation and that we often replicate things we like/see. Nine times out of ten it's after a conversation of "Hey, I like that, thanks for the idea/fashion thought/post", so you're giving the credit to the person due. I admit I've used ideas I've found in blogland, but I have done my best to give credit and often will email the 'creator' with a 'please and thank you'. But, what I can't stand is a person that copies without giving credit. Or copies your friends, [both in real life or in blog land], your layout, linkups and even your mannerisms. It's not flattering, it's just weird.
Goodbye copycat. You've taught me that being an original is better than being a copy. Because of you I'll be more mindful when I see something I want to imitate. And I'll make sure to give credit where credit is due. 
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2015 has just started and I hope I'm able to keep the positive in my life. Last year I learned about what I will tolerate and what I don't need, so 2015 is the year of being true to me and my happiness. If you aren't contributing to that, #ByeFelicia!

Who are the people you won't tolerate anymore? How did you remove a negative person from your life?

33 comments:

Ashley @ Words About Waverly said...

Haha, love this!! I feel like the older I get, the less I focus on negative people ... Or at least try to. ;) Instigators drive me crazy!!!

BLovedBoston said...

Seriously great people to get rid of in your life!! The constant complainers kill me...I have a friend who no joke is miserable every day of the year...I told her not to tell me anymore unless she had something positive to say LOL! xo, Biana - BlovedBoston

Elle Sees said...

great conclusions to come to. surround yourself with good and you'll be happier.

Amanda {Kids and Cabernet} said...

Yes to ALL of those girlie - preach! :)

Jessica said...

I have been lucky to have not had to deal with too many negative people in my life so far! But, at 28 years old, I'd hope that if any people like the ones mentioned above did start making my life harder, I'd be able to recognize it and cut it off before I wasted any time or energy on them! Glad you're at that point too. Cheers to happiness for 2015!

Illegally Blonde said...

I;ve decided being in a sorority taught me all of this. Pick the friends you love and love you and forget the rest... now if it was only that easy with family or co-workers...

~Dawn~ said...

There no time for any negative relationships in life. I feel like my older wiser self is starting to catch on to that and weed out the people you mentioned above. Cheers to a happier and positive new year!

Allison @ Texas Mrs. said...

I sure do hate complainers. I swear - it really does drain me!!!

Jen said...

Yes!!! Complainers are the bane of my existence! I do my best to keep my complaints to myself and usually they just go away.

Meghan @ Me as Meghan said...

Love this!! It's great that you mentioned what you've learned from these negative interactions... Sometimes I feel like we learn more from negative situations/people rather than good ones because we are more reflective about it when looking back on what was so sour (or maybe that is just me haha!)

Mree said...

Great post. Last year I decided last year to get rid of toxic friends. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made. While I miss the good times we had, I don't miss the drama or the negativing at all.

MakeMeUpMia said...

Coming back to work this week has been rough, I've had zero tolerance for complainers and I'm trying to figure out how to deal with it because I know nothing is going to change. I just can't stand when you ask someone how they are or how their break was and you know 100% what they're going to say... "Oh it was ok but UGH I'm so tired and I hate being here" I swear I'm THIS close to a freak out lol. I get so annoyed.

Melissa Suggitt said...

*hands in the air emoji*

YESSS. Bye all of these people. BYE!

Julia said...

Yes to all of these! Especially constant complainers, I can't STAND when someone is just negative ALL the time! Don't they get annoyed with themselves?? And the instigators is one of the reasons I'm contemplating quitting FB for a while, because that seems to be the place people do that the most!

Food, Booze, & Baggage said...

All good people to say goodbye to in 2015. I think liars are my number 1 I can't handle, it gets under my skin, even if it is not directed at me.

Katie Elizabeth said...

Yes, these people are all totally worth saying goodbye to! It's nice being older (and wiser) and realizing we don't HAVE to put up with having these people in our lives. I think I realized that a couple of years ago and life is sooo much better having eliminated some of those "friendships"!

Rebecca Virginia said...

love these! gotta cut out the negative people in 2015!!!

Kenzie Smith said...

Yes to all of these! There is just too much work and drama centered around all of those types of people and I don't have time for it. Thinking about people like those listed above make me tired and uneasy ha ha.

Jessi @ Jessi's Design said...

What a terrible group of people this categorizes haha and unfortunately we ALL know them! Negative nancy peeps- I was just telling my friend that wants to amp up her blogging game about how welcoming the blogging world is and how its so much less negativity and no bitchy-ness between females! I told her she'd like us more than her IRL friends! :)

Lara @ Cookies Cardio and Clothes said...

These are all spot on! The do-nothings are the ones I dislike the most! They drive me crazy!

Julie said...

Ugggh compulsive liars make me crazy! I've been friends with so many of them, and my brother is the absolute worst. It's bad because he even starts to believe them!

Kate @ Another Clean Slate said...

I try not to be one of those people who complains without fixing the problem. Every time I whine about my weight, I have to tell myself afterwards to go do something about it then!

Jess said...

I love all of those. I am all about cutting out the negativity this year. Who needs it? :)

Nadine Lynn said...

I have cut out a lot of these people from my life over the years. I don't understand being miserable and complaining every day. That is no way to live life!!!

Kathy@RealTalk said...

hi hi i'm here :) i had to leave blog land for a while and kill the old blog while work was a shit storm.

i hear you on the copy cats. omg i'm getting a dose of mine right now...as in the bitch stole my idea for a birthday gift that i told her about TWO WEEKS AGO and even told the person i was going to give it to. WTF. it's a long story and this bitch has a history of doing this shit to people. i'm so over it but that still doesn't reduce my rage.

Shelby / Recent Somethings said...

A round-up of the people I cannot stand... and in particular one that had to fortunately move in. Ain't nobody got time for toxic people ;)

Teh Megan said...

arggh hypocrites and constant complainers.. I "complain" about things too, but it's the same, I say it to release it, then I move on. I'm that obnoxious person who when people complain about the rain/weather, I always point out how badly we needed the rain/etc and tell them how much I like grey days. I love the speechless look on their faces when they have nothing else to say.

Pamela {Sequins and Sea Breezes} said...

Ugh, all of these types of people are literally the worst. I can't even decide which one is worst... hypocrites are definitely up there though!

Janna Renee said...

I'm right there with ya! They've actually started calling internet instigators "Trolls", because they troll the internet instigating negativity and arguments. It's SO annoying!

Laura Marie Keenan said...

I got all sorts of angry reading this post, ha! People...they're the worst! :-) But seriously, copycats hands down take the cake!

Kristen said...

yes to all of these!
the copy cats - i am the copiest of all the copy catters but i always say it loud and proud this is where i got this idea. someone commented on my post about christmas at home saying she loved it and was gonna do one.. and then she did.. she didn't say ANYTHING about me or my post, girl I was so freaking angry I just couldn't even deal. She even titled it the same as mine. I unfollowed her so fast - I'd only just 'met' her but seriously I can't tolerate that shit.

Alisha said...

SO true, each and every one of them! My goodness, it gets frustrating at times dealing with people like the ones above, but usually it is just sad to see adults acting like that!

Kay R. said...

Oh gosh I really cant say how much I love this post... the liars and the complainers and instigators ... ugh ... I dont want them anywhere near me!