Wife Notes, a New Normal

Three months after the blessed event

and life is pretty much back to normal now.

Well, back to the NEW normal I'd say.

Being a newlywed is fun [duh I've said that how many times],

and for the most part people help keep it fun

because they ask me 'how we are doing'

or 'how's married life'?!?

At first I was nervous about answering them

without sounding too cliche.

But, then I realized, it really doesn't matter

if I sound cliche.

Right now things are super awesome still

schmoooopy fabulous. 

A wonderful, married friend of mine told me
"It can totally stay like that, if you work at it"!
Well, I know were are going to do our
darndest to make sure it stays this way.

I'm sure people scoff at my doe-eyed newlywedness,
but I like to think I've learned a thing or two
in the past three months.

Here's my three month take on marriage!

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It's Good

We've acclimated to cohabitating much better than I honestly expected. The battles that I expected, haven't reared their heads whatsoever. There has been a collective effort on both sides to try and keep the peace and not disrupt each others routine too. Obviously things are different, but in a good way. When we were dating/engaged it was so different than now and I honestly can't imagine living single again. Even though we lived so close to each other, there is something to coming HOME to your spouse instead of texting your bf/fiance to find out when he'll be home or what he wants to do for dinner. Living with a dude also means the jars get opened easier, the trash gets taken out more frequently and there is no need to scream when there's a bug or spider crawling around.

It's Ugly

However, living with a dude is weird. Amazing, but weird. And full disclosure, a lil bit gross. The beautiful bathroom sink you constantly wipe down, will inherently have little hairs from your husband shaving on it....constantly. The living room couch will sometimes also serve as a dresser or jacket holder. Men inherently leave the toilet seat up [tmi, sorry] and sometimes forget they are in the presence of a female. We've also had to learn the living in a one bathroom apartment dance. Literally, haha! There is also the small lil sharing of the remote dance we do weekly. We have chosen to not pay for a DVR, so any show we want to watch, we have to negotiate in real time. Sound of Music for a Saturday of football, works for me! There are also tests in patience and biting ones tongue before speaking. I've learned you really need to pick your battles and 99.9% of the time one of us is just being too sensitive and it's a moot point. Marriage is about compromise and that's a lesson you learn every day. It's not all me adjusting though. Two of my favorite C quotes regarding living together are "Yup, I'm living with a girl, there's a mat outside my door" and "Oh man.....it totally smells like girl in here". Sorry honey, sometimes men stink ;)!

It's Affirming

Wow, is marriage affirming. I thought I knew love before C, and I thought I knew happiness, but I'm experiencing it NOW! I honestly have never been happier in my life, nor have I ever felt so loved. I live for the simple, sleepy "Good night wife" with a kiss at night and cherish the forehead kiss every morning before I leave for work. Our little, special, only us moments together are just a bit brighter. And life is so funny and laugh inducing it's crazy. I don't think I've ever laughed or smiled as much as I have in the past three months. My husband is funny, way funnier than I ever knew. And he's kind and generous and takes care of me. I still catch myself thinking "wow, he picked ME!" and "God picked him for ME"! We may argue, get frustrated and side eye each other, but I know he's mine forever. He's my person, my companion, my supporter, my lover and my best friend. We are forever bonded and blessed by God and I cherish the man who will be with me for the rest of my life. 

I look forward to learning more about each other,

and about ourselves on our journey 

in life together. 

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My bit of cheer today is from 

Tuesday night's CAPS game. 

We were losing 0-3 and came back to win

6-5 in a shoot out. 

I love going to games with C and it was

a ton of fun watching the team win.