January 22, 2014

Pinky's Do's & Don'ts of Wedding Planning

Good morning ladies!

I hope everyone is doing well.

We're still dealing with snow and our tax dollars have been hard at work with school's & the federal government closed. Sadly, my company does not give us free days off work, so I've been 'slaving' away while others get to sleep at home. The snow is beautiful though, so I can't been too upset.

Since my Wedding OOOPS post was such a hit [thanks for the sweet comments friends], I thought I'd share my DO's & Don'ts of Wedding Planning today. I, by no means, am ANY kind of expert planner [wedding planning is not on my top 1000 things to do btw], but as one of the few post wedding girls that linkup, I thought it would be fun to share some advice that I wish I had known before planning. 

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DO... take time to enjoy your engagement.
Whether you choose to have a LONG engagement or a short engagement take at least a week or two to BE IN the JUST engaged bubble. It should be one of the happiest times of your life, so wallow in the happy, joy and mushiness. Once planning gets started, stress happens, so splurge on going out to dinners, having extra cuddle time and staying up late together. The magic of your love will never fade, but the magic that is the engaged bubble will, so enjoy it as much as possible.
Siiiiiiiiiiiigh, what a great moment!

DO... remember that a wedding is JUST a DAY, but a marriage is a lifetime.
YES, a wedding is important and a fun and special day. BUT, it's just a day. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and something that will last forever. Stressing about colors, dresses, gifts and details REALLY isn't worth it for just one day. Definitely take the time to make it wonderful and your own, but also concentrate on WHY you are having the wedding day too.

DON'T... let people steal your sunshine.
This is YOUR wedding, don't let anyone take the fun out of planning it.You can't control other people's attitudes, opinions or actions so don't try. You will just make yourself miserable. People won't be able to come to your wedding and they might have some opinions to share regarding things you want to have, but don't let that steal your sunshine. Sometimes compromises will have to be made, but remember it's your wedding and stick to your guns when it's something important.

DO... make your wedding unique/special to you and your fiance.
It doesn't have to be expensive or anything grand, but have something that makes you two as a couple unique on the day. Whether it's programs, gifts, cake, your dress or anything else, just have something SPECIAL and unique to you both. It will make the day truly yours and give your guests something fun to remember as well.

DON'T... be fooled by Pinterest.
Sure, Pinterest is a great place to go for ideas and pretty pictures. But, it's also very easy to hide the costs and work and make you think everything is cheap&easy. That beautiful boquet that looks whimsy, yeah probably $200 to recreate. All the shabby chic decor that looks DIY friendly, yeah probably done by a professional to LOOK that way. DON'T stress yourself out perusing Pinterest too often. I only REALLY used Pinterest to get wedding dress ideas, to find my bridesmaid dresses and for hair and makeup. Everything else was just pretty pictures and mindless entertainment. 
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DO... other things besides JUST wedding stuff while planning.
Remember to date your fiance and enjoy each other. Wedding planning will take up the bulk of your time for sure, but don't forget to still date each other and enjoy each other. Make plans to be together for dinner or to go out for ice cream or just go for a walk together. You are going to be with each other the rest of your life, so make sure you keep the joy and fun alive :)

DON'T... wait too long to order your invitations. TRUST ME
Yeah, just don't wait too long, it will cause way too much stress. 

DO... delegate/ask for help.
You don't have to be superwoman girlfriend, let others help you. Unless you have horrible friends and family, this is the one time in your life where everyone is asking to help you out, so let them. Even if it's just making phone calls or if it's something as major as being in charge of setting up, delegate to people you trust so you don't go crazy.

DON'T... sweat the small stuff.
STUFF happens and there is nothing you can do about it.Things will go wrong, you'll missplan, things won't arrive on time and you can either pitch a fit and get upset [which I've done] or build a bridge and get over it [which I've also done]. As mentioned before, the wedding is just a day, so don't let minor things keep you from enjoying everything about the wedding and the fact you're getting married.
[and who wants to walk funny?]
DO... workout.
You'll need the stress relief, the endorphins and will feel better about your body on your special day. Make a plan and stick to it. Maybe you have to workout in the mornings, maybe late at night and maybe only for thirty minutes, just make sure you get some sweating time [that kind of sweating time will work too ;)] Looking back I could have worked out harder earlier on, but I think I'll be where I want to be come my wedding day. My gym sweat sessions really helped keep me from going coocoo!

DO...take a step back and remember you're getting married to the love of your life.
You're getting married, that's what matters! You will be starting a life together as man and wife and that is so exciting. All that matters is walking down the aisle after the ceremony as ONE COUPLE! If the rings are forgotten, if the limo doesn't show up, if it rains and your dress gets ruined or anything else happens that wasn't planned.....IT'S OKAY! You will still be married and starting your new life together. ENJOY the moment and the fun. WOOOHOOO!!!!!!!

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There are probably other tips I should be sharing too, but these are the most important ones, I think. Married ladies, any other tips you would share? Brides-To-Bes anything you wished you knew?!?!

Wedding Wednesday

NC Belle in Boots

***If you didn't see my post yesterday, please take a moment to ready Teddy's story and send his family some love and prayers***

10 comments:

Illegally Blonde said...

all such good things to remember.

Mary said...

Oh my goodness I love everything about this post. So so so true. Thanks for this!

Janelle {Undomestic Bliss} said...

SO TRUE. Especially, enjoying your engagement and not letting other people steal your sunshine! Totally agree.

Alisha said...

All of these are so true, good reminders for everyone!

Raewyn @ Be A Warrior Queen said...

This list is perfect! And should be made into some sort of poster all brides must have

Jenn said...

A great list to keep in mind for all brides-to-be! I'm happy to say that I'm on track with these :) Hope that means more smooth sailing to come!

Nikki said...

I LOVE this! I have a friend who is planning her wedding and I just gave her the link to your post today.

Kerry @ Till Then Smile Often said...

I wasn't lucky either and had to work too! All really great tips to remember for when the time comes.

Jordon said...

These are all spot on! All engaged gals need to read this!

Thanks for linking up!

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